I think it’s a gift to be thoughtful by nature. Remembering things beyond what is required (birthdays, anniversaries, names) takes purposeful thought. I don’t have the gift of thoughtfulness, but I’d like to develop it. Being a motivated person, completing tasks in the most efficient way, I miss things sometimes. I get things done, but occasionally it’s at the cost of something more valuable. Sometimes, I just don’t notice things. It’s not because I don’t care; I care very much. My focus is just elsewhere.
There’s a joke between my husband and I. You’ll think it’s terrible, but I don’t usually notice when he changes his facial hair. If he starts growing a beard or if he shaves it off, I usually don’t notice for a while. I’d really like to do a little better than that. I’d like to be more thoughtful, pay more attention and notice the little things in life. While pondering this it led my thoughts to a more specific place. What exactly is it about a person that causes him/her to be thoughtful?
Thoughtful People Are Listeners. It is difficult to pick up on small details about people if you are doing most of the talking. I know this because I’m a talker. Every now and then though, when I make the conscious effort to be quiet and listen, I’m pleased to find I pick up more from my companion and absorb more from our conversation.
Thoughtful People Are Observers. Thoughtful people take notice of others, paying purposeful attention to needs and even preferences. Rather than jumping in the spotlight they are watchful of the person in the spotlight.
Thoughtful People Are Not Self-Centered. When in a crowd, at a party or other public event are you overly concerned with how you appear to others; if your hair is right, your conversation interesting, etc.? Thoughtful people are more focused on others rather than themselves. Their care for others shows through in compassion and a lack of focus on self.
Thoughtful People Take Action. While it is good to take notice of something, it is something else entirely to act on it. Thoughtful people step out and take meaningful action with the sole intention of meeting a need or blessing another person.
Reading this over I’m afraid it sounds a little preachy. My dad will like that. Really, I’m preaching to myself a little and hoping a couple of you can identify. I want to improve my character and the person I’m becoming (well, I’m already a person, but hopefully I’m becoming a better one). I think it would do a world of good to have a few more thoughtful people in it.
How about you? Does thoughtfulness come easy to you or do you tend to miss things sometimes like me?
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